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]]> By: Jamy Louiss https://www.hackingchinese.com/language-learning-with-a-chinese-girlfriend-or-boyfriend/#comment-3414 Sun, 24 Aug 2014 16:23:15 +0000 http://www.hackingchinese.com/?p=3957#comment-3414 Yes it’s terribly disapointing when you did struggle many years learning Mandarin and you have the chance one day to practice a bit with friends or relations, you have one guy just shouting kinda: “Oh! I heard your girlfriend is Chinese, this is why you can speak so well!”

Usually people making these kind of statements never learned any second language. They don’t even know the difference between a Teacher and a Tutor and yes if it helps to be able to practice or have good advises, the most part of it is WORK and WORK…That’s it!

I remember facing the same situation a few years ago and I knew the wife of this guy was a classical artist, so I said: “I heard your wife is a fantastic violin player…” and the guy proudly answering “True that she recently played in the famous hall…” but before he even finished his sentence, I just said: “Woowww! It’s fantastic to have such a wife and obviously you must also play the violin very well! So easy to learn with your wife! Nice!” I remember the guy being a bit puzzled and I’m pretty sure he did get the message πŸ™‚ This is a true story!

]]> By: Sofia https://www.hackingchinese.com/language-learning-with-a-chinese-girlfriend-or-boyfriend/#comment-3413 Thu, 24 Jul 2014 05:57:28 +0000 http://www.hackingchinese.com/?p=3957#comment-3413 The fact that my Chinese boyfriend doesn’t look the least bit Chinese as he’s from the Wa people and most Chinese people seem to think he’s African makes people always comment on how good HIS Chinese is and exclaim surprise at how he even speaks the local dialect, most people we meet assume he speaks English and that I don’t speak Chinese. When they he’s actually from China and that I speak Chinese though, they just tend to be impressed, but with him I’ve actually never gotten that annoying comment that my Chinese is good because I’m with him but it often happened with a previous, Han Chinese boyfriend…rather people will comment that my Mandarin is more “biaozhun” than his. My boyfriend is an excellent writer and through keeping in touch with him on WeChat I get in contact with a lot of new vocabulary that I save in a special Pleco wordlist, but honestly I’m often too lazy to bother to really learn those words, so in that sense being with him doesn’t help me to learn Chinese – like you wrote, it’s not like you learn the language magically just by being in a relationship with someone Chinese, you have to put in a lot of effort. However, one big advantage I’ve gotten from being with my boyfriend is that I can now understand different Yunnanese dialects, because my boyfriend and his friends will never speak Mandarin just because I’m around (something that made me upset in the beginning as I felt very bored and left out, but now that I can understand what they’re saying – well, most of the time – I mostly just feel proud over my listening comprehension and grateful that I can now travel to small villages in Yunnan and interact with the locals who don’t speak Putonghua).

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